The determination is awesome.
But what really matters is stopping, thinking, and changing strategy.
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Thanks for sharing. I just found out this blog but loved your book. I might be out of context here but we have a big decision to make, and hope anyone can help me out.
Which do you think is a better choice for my kid:
a) A very competitive team in which he has been playing for years, where he has a fixed responsibility as a GOALIE, position that he chose when younger, but now (8 years old) doesn´t enjoy as much as being in the field. Since they are so good, sometimes he gets little or no participation at all during games. They have accepted relluctantly to let him go in other positions WHEN the game is almost over and the difference is big enough. As a goalie here he is given much respect, but to go into the field he has to start all over again, since many kids already have their fixed positions earned. This school belongs to a big team here in Mexico and he has all the resources, organization, training methods, access to the professional team, etc. Oh, this might be important, trainers here never got to be pro players, they are amateur players who got this job.
b) A brand new soccer training facility, in which he is allowed to have FUN and play any position he wants, but since they just started, is nowhere near as competitive as option a). Also they do not have as much resources, tournaments, trips, as option a). The trainers focus on the fun – games – drills- reaching – and also give them much more personal attention. I see big potential for learning and progress here. Also, the owners- trainers are ex proffesional players who personally train their kids (no big staff or employees).
I know it sounds pretty obvious (spartan vs luxurious) but I think that maybe going through the rough times of being held back and fighting your way up has a lesson for him, as opossed to just saying to my kid, “ok so you do not enjoy this, you are not getting what you want, so let´s get tou out of here.”
Looks like an excellent example of “overnight” success!! The mouse struggles trying different ways and then all-of-a-sudden he makes it look so easy
my son is 7 years old and I have been coaching his team since he was 3. Though I have coached before, I learned more these past 4 years of coaching him ,than all the years before him. During his early years, I pushed and drilled him, and as you can imagine, his desire and passion waned. Now I am completely for him having fun, and maintaining the joy/passion of playing.
In this context the answer is obvious, and your option B is best. Here he can continue to develop all around skills, have fun, and later if he wishes, he can go back into being a goalie. Option A is way too early to be specializing. Parents in the U.S. are obsessed with creating future pros and one way they do that is specializing too early. Also, please read through some of the articles/blog post here, especially the one on the “number one reason kids drop sports”.
awesome!….love the mouse!
Way too early to be settling on anything. My son was a catcher his whole life a and a really good one. At 13 years old he threw out 7 straight batters in a game. But he went to high school and they told him no lefty catchers. So he switched to first base. It was awkward at first and he had a few tough games but he adjusted and made on a very competitive D1 team. (100 kids tryout for 18 spots) Now he’s being told to play outfield. So I’m hitting him a million fly balls. He’ll do great there too. 7th and 8th grade is when to start really focusing. Just develop your son into a competitor and an athlete and the other stuff will take care of itself. For true success the drive has to come internally
Eduardo, I watched the Southern Cal vs Oregon State football (American football) game last night. They have had a pretty good turn about since Lane Kiffin was fired and Ed Olgeron took over. Much of this has been attributed to Olgeron making the game and practice fun again for the players (and probably for the coaches as well). If this is true for big time D1 football players don’t you think it would also hold true for 8 year olds. Good luck with the decision.
This would fall best in one of DC’s post about ownershipbut here my 2 cents.
Start empowering your child to own his decisions, since he is only 8 will need your input and guidance, but my advice as someone very involved with youth sports is this.
Firts of all, ask your son if he enjoys playing at his current team, if he has fun, if he says yes, then you can coach him that if he wants to play more on the field, he should approach his coach and ask him ” what do I need to do to play more on the field? Which skills I need to improve”. Empower your child to own it!
If his coach doesnt provide feedback to him, then Id seriously start looking somewhere else, but will follow this process of not lobbying for him, or making decisions for him, but empowering him.
In regards to this video, a great lesson of perseverancea and growth mind, looking for solutions instead of giving up.
Thank you so much Mike, Chuck, Doc and Adrian for your kind responses. It´s great to not be alone in this!
It seems like the best choice is clear, but I will first talk to my boy and empower him to talk to his coaches.
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